As a mom of a tween girl I’m constantly worried about her safety online. My eleven year old has bugged me for over a year to get a Facebook account but we still say no. Our rule is when she’s thirteen she can have her own Facebook.
While we’ve avoided Facebook she has still managed to get onto social media. There’s an app called Musically, people make short music videos that are public and can be commented on. I love that she’s being creative and making videos but some of the comments are mean. My daughter has a short pixie haircut, like her mom. She’s recently gotten some mean comments about whether she is a boy or a girl. It doesn’t seem like much, but to a tween girl it means the world. She was down and felt bad about herself for a week before I figured out why. We have since sat down and had a conversation about social media and what to look out for. Since social media is such a worry for so many parents, I’ve made a list of the top five things I want my daughter to know about social media.
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Must know about social media.
Once you post something on social media it’s there for good. You might try to delete it but sometimes it sticks around.
The images you post may come back to haunt you. My rule of thumb is for her to not post anything she would want her dad and I to see or her future kids.
There are people on social media that do not have your best interest in mind. Be careful of who you friend and talk to. People may not always be who they portray themselves to be.
Do not post personal information such as where you live, full name, date of birth, what school you go to…..
Do not take peoples comments personally. People will say hurtful things in life, not just on social media. Do not pay attention. You are wonderful just the way you are.
Another thing we do is to check our daughters phone. Now I know this is a touchy subject, but for our family we feel we have the right to check her phone when needed until she is old enough to pay for her own phone bill. We are not sneaky about it, she knows that we can and will check it. My hope with checking her phone is that if there is something important going on that I need to know about I will find out. Tweens are not adults yet and don’t always know what is dangerous or important. Like I said, I know privacy is a touchy subject. This is what works for my family.
It’s a constant battle when it comes to kids and social media. My goal is to teach and instill these things in my eleven year old before she becomes a teen. I want her to be able to make decisions about social media before she gets into the Facebook world.
What social media tips do you have when it comes to tweens?