One of the most important things for me as a parent is to make sure my girls grow up to be strong and confident. I want them to feel good about themselves. There’s so much pressure to dress a certain way, act a certain way or be good at certain things.
Each of my girls have different personalities and talents and that’s something I praise them for. I tell them all the time how amazing it is to truly be yourself and be happy.
Of course I know that they will go through times in their lives where they will feel down or self conscious but hopefully by encouraging them to be themselves and celebrating their uniqueness they will come out of those down times feeling even stronger.
Here are a few tips to increase your little ones confidence…
Say “I love you.” It’s so important for your child to hear this. I know we get busy but it only takes a second to get down on their level and tell them we love them.
Don’t just say “good job.” Make sure they know you’re really paying attention. Try saying something like “good job, I love all the colors you used in that picture.”
Let them make choices. For younger kids it might be what they will eat or wear. For older kids it can be how much of their homework they will do on a certain night.
Lead by example. If you’re constantly comparing yourself to others or putting yourself down that is what your kids will learn.
Let them help. When I’m cooking dinner my house is chaos but if my kids ask to help I try to find something for them to help with. It makes them feel important and needed.
Avoid comparing them to a sibling or another child. This one speaks for itself. Each child is an individual.
Offer unconditional love. Make sure that your kids know that they are loved even when the mess up. To adults this seems silly like they should already know this, but a child needs to be reminded of this.
Let them be themselves. If my daughter wants to wear some ridiculous outfit to school I let her (as long as it’s appropriate.) She picked it out herself and it makes her happy so by all means.
Let your child cry if they feel they need to. It’s not good for kids let alone adults to keep their emotions bottled up.
Don’t embarrass your kids in front of other kids. Pull them aside and quietly talk to them. When they are yelled at or constantly corrected in front of their peers it lowers their self esteem.
Look for opportunities to praise your child. When my kids are playing nicely together or being helpful I let them know that I appreciate it.
Ask them questions. Make them feel involved and important. It can be something as simple as what they think you should make for dinner or something silly like if they had one super power what would it be.
Get creative. My kids love being creative and I love watching them create things. I make sure to display their works of art (maybe not all of them.)
What are some way you boost your child’s self-esteem?